Relapsing is usually a great source of disappointment for a person in recovery.
Some of those who pick up on the spur of the moment do manage to avoid calamity by quitting again right away. This is known as a slip rather than a relapse.
However, in many cases, the individual will make a full return to active addiction. Getting another chance to achieve sobriety won't happen for some of them. Relapse is similar to capital punishment, and therefore, it is essential that the individual makes every effort to avoid it. People usually do not return to their addiction without significant reasons. In most situations, what is going to happen comes with warning signs. The individual will be able to prevent catastrophe if they are able to spot these tell-tale signs.
The most usual signs that an individual is sliding towards relapse include: Aloofness: The person will start avoiding other people and will become more isolated.
They start acting secretively or even dishonestly. People who attend meeting of support groups, and AA will discontinue the practice without warning.
The feeling of being stuck in recovery: frustrations overcome people when they begin to realise that they are not making any progress during the recovery.
Less Recovery Effort: The person will seem to have less interest in the recovery process and won't do the things they used to in order to stay sober.
Rage and bitterness: The individual blames those around them because life in recovery is not turning out to be what they expected. A return to drugs and alcohol could be excused by these emotions.
Denial of problems: it is quite common for people in recovery to deny that they are having problems with life away from the addiction. They won't be able to deceive themselves for long, even if they manage to deceive others. These problems can become a barrier to recovery if they are not faced.
Stinking Thinking-: Thus people become away from addiction having excessively negative thinkings about their life. It is as if they are trying to get an excuse to relapse.
Overconfidence: As the saying goes, pride surely precedes a fall. Setting up for disaster may the result for individuals who are overconfident about their recovery. It can lead to complacency, and people can return within the midst of addiction before they even realise it. Recovery is a serious business, and people are considered most vulnerable when they don't think about the business of recovery similarly.
Not Feeling Up to the Fight: A person is usually close to relapsing when they start to think they can't make it. No one can be rational when they are feeling unable to cope. A yearning to elude the uneasiness simply leads people back to addiction.
Romancing about the drink or drug: this is the stage when people begin to remember the times they were happy by being a substance abuser. Longing for those times might even occur. The Past can seem far rosier than it actually was as the memory plays tricks on people. People can even forget how much they desired to get rid of their addiction.
Addiction replacement: People might begin acting unstable in a new way in an attempt to get away from their troubles. They can become preoccupied with their work or might start overly working out. In some cases, the person may start to use other intoxicating substances instead of the previous one.
Acting drunk without drinking: People do not alter their behaviour regardless of no longer drinking. Individuals like these may not have a commitment to sobriety and are therefore, likely to relapse without difficulties.
Spending time with the old crowd: It can be highly dangerous if the individuals move back to spending time with their old drinking or drug using chaps. People who have a weak recovery will generally succumb to peer pressure to relapse.
Visiting drinking venues: it is usually considered safe for people who have completed recovery positively to visit a bar if they have a good reason to do so. If, however, people go to these drinking places so they can get indirect satisfaction from looking at other people drinking, then it can be very dangerous. The idea of visiting places like these out of sheer boredom or loneliness is also a terrible habit. In AA, it is said that sitting in a barber shop for a long time guarantees you a hair cut.
In the context of the relapse process, the warning signs of a return to addiction can be better understood.
We will tell you about numerous steps that illustrate what usually goes on with individuals before they relapse. Prior to using the drugs or alcohol, the process originates in a person's mind. These same steps may not be familiar to everybody but they give a insightful look on how things mostly occur. The relapse process goes something like this:
1. Progress in recovery comes to a stop or just a slow shuffle.
This occurs because they are faced with a challenge they feel unwilling or unable to deal with. They try to ignore the signs that they have quit making progress. Life gets uncomfortable due to the lack of progress. People tend to turn to dangerous mechanisms to handle this. This pain will keep on building inside even if they manage to bury it deep down.
These problems will finally become visible thanks to a triggering event. This might even be an insignificant argument over some unimportant thing, but because irritation has been growing inside all the time, a person might overreact. The person will then start to feel a rising emotional disturbance. This is usually the type of discomfort, which would have at one time let them to abuse substances as it would have seemed as the best option. One may feel susceptible to these emotions after achieving sobriety. Thinking rationally and going on with a regular life becomes much more difficult because of this internal discomfort.
The emotional unrest could become more pronounced to other people. Anger and agitation will become manifested more frequently. They may have unpredictable behaviour. In order to stay sober a person has to do certain things and at this phase the individual will stop doing them.
The person now feels out of order and overwhelmed. How the alcohol or the drugs once helped them to avoid the problems in their life will occupy the thoughts of the individual. Preventing a relapse at this stage will take more than just the motivation for sobriety.
If warning signs of imminent relapse are recognized by someone, they might have to do these steps to prevent it:
Focus on the reasons why they get rid of their addiction as well as their aspirations and expectations in recovery. Now is a good time to go back and read the journal if you have been keeping a recovery journal. Make remaining sober the main concern in life. Until there is a feeling of security in sobriety everything else is to take a backseat. Making compelling decisions on life changes or taking on new responsibilities should not be done at this time.
It is almost important that the individual discusses their relapse with someone who is going to be able to listen and provide the good suggestion. Their sponsor is the perfect person to talk to if they are part of a 12 Step program. It is suggested to those that have a therapist to schedule an urgent meeting. Individuals need to have a contact in rehab if they have just left. It is important to the individual to avoid isolation by having a discussion with a helpful member. During this crucial moments individuals belonging to a group are encouraged to attend often. Share the problems you've been facing with other people during the meetings.
Completely prevent former drinking or drug using friends at this time. Going to drinking venues is also not very smart move for recovering addicts, especially if they are feeling down. Making a wrong move at some point during your recovery is what causes people to relapse. Going over their steps in their mind is very significant in order to understand where this happened. Conducting this investigation will be highly beneficial, especially with a therapist or an individual who is strongly established within their own recovery. This is a good time also to read some inspirational recovery material. Individuals might be inspired to stay sober by this. People can also utilize dependency recovery resources that can be found on the Internet. Ask for dependency help lines that work non-stop.
Use these helplines if you feel you're at risk of relapsing.