Some people think that they can protect the alcoholic from him/herself while others think that they can tell what the alcoholic will do next, always with good intentions.
Many sayings are popular with alcoholics getting rid of booze. Some of them are supposed to make you think and others are supposed to be taken very precisely. Alcoholics anonymous refers to this phenomenon as "the insanity of our disease." This declaration is very accurate. The statement simply implies that to understand the mind of an alcoholic such that it makes sense is only possible if you're almost incapable of thinking rationally, unable to accept or learn from mistakes, unable to make use of common sense and not even able to spot the most obvious behavioural patterns and this is why alcoholism is said to possess some aspect of insanity.
Alcoholism has up to 100 different types. The conscious alcohol user, who is completely active, and has never experienced grievous loss, is the person I am referring to here. The addiction disorder governs that eventually these things will be lost and rule of three shows us a very depressing future (prison, institution or fatality). The ones addicted to alcohol believe, act and feel depending on mind-altered conditions or themselves and the things around them.
Either they live on the edge or there is no life. There is not a way in between, no control, and no balance. In many cases, alcoholics live in denial of their destructive habits [self and others] and this habit among them further distorts the things that they are able to make sense of.
Because of their ability to convince themselves that lies are truths by justifying and rationalizing everything, you will discover the biggest liars among addicts. This takes at a subconscious level.
They don't comprehend that they are ruining their lives.
Alcoholics use some expressions that makes easy lying in a way that sounds like it's true. "Probably." is one of their best terms. It indicates the purpose that truly isn't there. An alcoholic is not likely to do something if they say that they'll probably do it. With this type of expression, they create a escapist route because you can't hold them responsible for any affirmation. The alcoholic relies on words and phrases like possibly, would, maybe, could, should, I'd like to, I want to and I need to. In reality, all these words and phrases are of no significance. The way they sound is positive but the true intention is not there. Gradually, all parts of an alcoholic's universe will be dragged into their alcoholism and this condition will change all their relationships and how they interact with people.
The alcoholic's perspective is similar to the one of a horse with blinders that doesn't let it see on the sides. The alcoholics will fail to concentrate on one thing even when they get their hands on several things.
Doing more things at once signifies big confusion for an alcoholic. For the active alcoholic, no balance exists. When one area throughout their lives begins to decline they will often begin to focus their attention on the decline and take it to the extreme. During this procedure when another part with their lives begins to decline, and gradually their lives get taken over by "firehouse management" where every course of action becomes concentrated on the most pressing problem. This is clearly a downward spiral, although some alcoholics manage to maintain a degree of control over it for a long time.
Since alcoholics are likely to drink gradually more they will mainly hide the regularity and quantity they consume. They will give you information that they only had three glasses of wine, which will be the truth. The other side of this truth maybe that the glass was actually a tumbler holding 16 ounces. The negative consequence alcohol causes in their existence is also concealed together with their drinking. Alcoholics often develop what is termed as counsellors as an external locus of control. Over time, someone else is to be blamed for everything. They will blame their bosses if their work starts to suffer. If their marriage suffers for any reason, the spouse is considered as unreasonable. They believe that their kids are not thankful if they are not acting as a parent should.
Every event or incident becomes a reason to have a drink.The problematic alcoholic will frequently mention that they don't even wish to drink, however the situations of dealing with an unpleasant job/spouse/children "obligate" them to drink.
It is common to notice alcoholics having a bizarre sense of entitlement among themselves. The reasoning they provide for this belief is things like a difficult life, too much stress and numerous demands, which give them the entitlement to choose actions that are immature, irresponsible and selfish. You will think that the people around them are indebted to them when you see them act. Self-pity is also common in alcoholics and many seem to think that the world is against them. And although they'll expect less from those around them, they'll still ask more from the world.
The fastest path to self elimination for alcohol addicts is the expression, "Screw it." This is an affirmation that all things are already ruined so they may as well consume alcohol. One of the things that recovering alcoholics are encouraged to see is that the damage they are causing is mostly to themselves. And that when they say something isn't worth the trouble, they actually mean that they are not worth the trouble. Despite all the denial, it always seems like alcoholics know the truth about their condition deep inside them. They pretend and demand that all is well and try to convince those close to them into buying the fantasy. Life becomes increasingly less about anything substantive and remains progressively more about maintaining appearances. The Pink's song named "Family Portrait," captures this well by saying. "In our family portrait we look pretty happy.
We look pretty normal '"
Alcoholics are chief schemers. After they became addicts they began showing incredible abilities as real performers. They can convince people in the most unlikely situations. They will make you feel guilty even when they are the cause of the quarrel between you and them. The skill of accountability is completely lost in them. They will demonstrate an almost total lack of integrity even if they had been the most transparent of people before their addiction. There is frequently one exception to this principle for every alcoholic - one thing they do very well and it will mainly be their singular source of self esteem. In some cases, you may get an alcoholic whose attitude to work is amazing, because it is an area they enjoy so much and are perfect in ......plus drinking.
The disease of alcoholism will gradually strip everything away from the individual We have been requested too many times if alcoholism is really a illness or an option. It is truly both things. Alcoholism is as special as any ailment, because it is invisible to others and also makes the victims not to believe its presence. Even when afflicted with this disease, there is an aspect of choice that is not there in other diseases. The alcoholic can reduce anytime and many do. We notice that alcoholics will quit drinking for a period to show themselves or other that they aren't alcohol addicted, just to come back later with revenge.
Retrieval from alcoholism includes more than abstinence. All parts of your life have to change to ensure full recovery from alcohol addiction. A dry drunk is an alcoholic who has stopped drinking and this means that while they may not be drinking, they're still far from recovery and some people remain dry drunks for many years. Expertly speaking, it is only the Alcoholics Anonymous program that can bring about full recovery. Numerous other positive things can be added to the program developed by Alcoholics Anonymous, and their importance cannot be overstated. The support of loved ones is important for people who are recovering. Unfortunately, I come across a number of friends and families who are unwittingly enabling [protecting the alcoholic from the natural consequences to their behaviour] the alcoholic and this inevitably result in the individual continuing to remain with the addiction.